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TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 12:24 PM

I have been thinking of dating a waitress from my favorite bar. I ended up taking her around with me to a bunch of bars for her 21st birthday, it was fun. I got along with her pretty well, she was a ttracteive and fit my style. Possibly good girlfriend material rather than just random i need as tonight skeeze. But i am torn... its my favorite bar and i see bars as a place to go to escape the ball and chain and see/interact with other lady friends (no cheating). I fear if things go well my bar wont be the same. If i date this girl all my lady friends at the bar may report to her or i'd have to watch what i say and how i act when im there. It would also mean free rides home from the bar the nights she works which up here when its -8* out would be sweeter than walking 2 blocks. If things go sour it will be awkward to be in my favorite bar, my female friends at said favorite bar may dislike me out of loyalty to said girl.

this is a great dilemna... I am leaning toward keeping my bar, but its slow at work today so I figured a poll would
be fun

picture for reference. Girl on the right is the one i am interested in

HyperTek · 01-09-2009, 12:29 PM

well if she works there, then she should already know how you are if she sees you there often right?

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 12:33 PM

That is a very good point that i never thought about

LeftNutOfGowd · 01-09-2009, 12:34 PM

Hummm this is a interesting dilemma I say just enjoi the bar

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 12:39 PM

I am not a fan of loud or crazy bars or clubs.

This is a sports bar. The entire staff is girls, 80% of which i am friends with, all are very attractive. A good number i would say are even out of my league, and i pull some pretty high quality trim without even trying. I am good enough friends with the girls bartending there that i can go with my best friend and we can drink beer and do shots with the girls for a solid 12 hours and have a $18 bar tab. This is mainly cause we'll both drop $30 on the tab, but we easily drink over that in drinks each sitting there and have dinner.

Theres not many bars two block down the street in town from my house. Thats why I'm weighing said situation

TommyBoy89 · 01-09-2009, 12:42 PM

This is very interesting actually. My advice is not needed sadly as I am not legal drinking age in the states. I don't know if I would do it though, it's like dating one of your best friends girlfriends best friends...that sounds so confusing but I hope you get what I'm going for...it may end up awkward no matter how it works out.

I would suggest getting to know her better apart from work though if that is an option.

SmogSUX · 01-09-2009, 12:44 PM

Keep the bar! Finding a close bar that's good is hard. On top of that even though the chick has seen how you are, shes seen the SINGLE you how you are. If you were with her I doubt she'd be down to have you hanging out with chicks drinking as per usual.

sub9lulu · 01-09-2009, 12:49 PM

just have some casual sex and see if u like it first

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by sub9lulu

just have some casual sex and see if u like it first

This was my plan, but i have the feeling this is the kind of girl that will require "work" to get to sex.

Brian · 01-09-2009, 01:05 PM

Are you sure she isn't jus ttrying to get bigger tips from you?
Maybe she does this with many guys that go to her bar.

ALTRNTV · 01-09-2009, 01:06 PM

BH is on to something. I voted for to enjoy the bar and the hoars.

Brian · 01-09-2009, 01:09 PM

Does she laugh at your jokes and lightly touch your leg or arm when you're there?

ESmorz · 01-09-2009, 01:10 PM

stiizy · 01-09-2009, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Brian

Are you sure she isn't jus ttrying to get bigger tips from you?
Maybe she does this with many guys that go to her bar.

I'm with Brian on this one, i know alot of female bartenders who act like this towards all guys for bigger tips...

It's like a stripper she may act interested but at the end of the night it's all bout the Washingtons in her thong .. ya feel me??>>!!

JRas · 01-09-2009, 01:15 PM

not all relationships end bad.. you can still be friends after, take the chance, least you will be able to say you tried.

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brian

Are you sure she isn't jus ttrying to get bigger tips from you?
Maybe she does this with many guys that go to her bar.

Shes a waitress. I always sit at the bar.

there has never been a situation where she has waited on me, yet she still stops and talks to me while she is waiting tables or standing around.

Trust me I know when a chick is fishing for tips.

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Originally Posted by Brian

Does she laugh at your jokes and lightly touch your leg or arm when you're there?

NO awkward i want money leg touch. When we went out for her birthday she laughed at my joke and did like the shoulder lean in and bump then lean away thing (if anyone knows what im talking about). She sat next to me the entire night rather than my friend i was with and made sure to hug me before i left. It was all good body language. Never awkward....but 21st birthday drunkeness can do that

Brian · 01-09-2009, 01:16 PM

Oh alright.
That sounds better.

ALTRNTV · 01-09-2009, 01:17 PM

Well, with that said, go out with her and see where it takes you. Also tell her to get you free drinks. Win.

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by AkademikONE

Well, with that said, go out with her and see where it takes you. Also tell her to get you free drinks. Win.

I already get many free drinks. Thats why i fear losing my bar

lol

to me Bar>girl.

but thats cause i interact with sloars on a daily basis, and NY sloars love casual sex.

I thought maybe people expiriencing good relationships might shed light on something i am missing cause i have become quite jaded about commitment in recent years

stiizy · 01-09-2009, 01:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheRonTom31

NY sloars love casual sex.

That's right!!!!!

You know where to post when you have that One Night Stand right??

Bring it back!!!!

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 01:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stiizy

That's right!!!!!

You know where to post when you have that One Night Stand right??

Bring it back!!!!

I have had a few actually. Quality was lacking. I havent had enjoyable sex in a while now actually.

Just boring hum-drum pelvis pounding. Girls who just lay there and moan/scream get boring. its hard to find a sloar who knows what she wants and makes you do it

stiizy · 01-09-2009, 01:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheRonTom31

I have had a few actually. Quality was lacking. I havent had enjoyable sex in a while now actually.

Just boring hum-drum pelvis pounding. Girls who just lay there and moan/scream get boring. its hard to find a sloar who knows what she wants and makes you do it

Ah i got the Solution for that...

WE gotta hit up New Rochelle Iona area all them Sloars are freaky as shit.. haha

or New Paltz which might be closer for you...

drftwerks · 01-09-2009, 01:43 PM

MY VOTE IS BOTH.

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 01:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stiizy

Ah i got the Solution for that...

WE gotta hit up New Rochelle Iona area all them Sloars are freaky as shit.. haha

or New Paltz which might be closer for you...

i heard that SUNY New paltz was ranked like #3 in the state for STDs

WTF is Tecate?

DUFFM4N · 01-09-2009, 01:48 PM

"dont mix business with pleasure"

...even if you just fucked around with her, wouldnt it still be awkward either way considering you'd have to still go back to the bar and see her?

C. Senor · 01-09-2009, 01:53 PM

haha....tecate is a mexican beer. you would know if you lived in cali. lol

try the gf thing. i mean if you dig the girl enough, you should try it. just dont be the one that fucks up the relationship. and just try, if things were to go sour, to keep it freindly. hopefully that wont mess up things at the bar. because it is tough to find a bar like that.

BOROSUN · 01-09-2009, 01:53 PM

DOOOOD!!! boobs

azndoc · 01-09-2009, 01:54 PM

I made that mistake before trying to date a girl from my favorite sushi place.

It became too awkward when it didn't work out.

So yeah, don't shit where you eat kind of rule.

TheRonTom31 · 01-09-2009, 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DUFFM4N

"dont mix business with pleasure"

...even if you just fucked around with her, wouldnt it still be awkward either way considering you'd have to still go back to the bar and see her?

yes. cause i am almost sure it would get out and the news would spread like wild fire.

I mean my birthday is next week and i told on of the girls i was going to the bar for my birthday and now like 6 of them are going to be there for that lol

stiizy · 01-09-2009, 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheRonTom31

i heard that SUNY New paltz was ranked like #3 in the state for STDs

WTF is Tecate?

Tecate is a beer bro....

Wouldn't surprise me last time i was there was in 01 and all them broads love dick...

Quote:

Originally Posted by stiizy

That's right!!!!!

You know where to post when you have that One Night Stand right??

Bring it back!!!!

Quote:

Originally Posted by DUFFM4N

"dont mix business with pleasure"

...even if you just fucked around with her, wouldnt it still be Awkward either way considering you'd have to still go back to the bar and see her?

Awh the good threads in life hahahahah...............

View Poll Results: Should i choose the bar or the girl?
Keep enjoying the bar and random sloars	79	33.91%
explore the girlfriend thing there are always more bars	154	66.09%
Voters: 233. You may not vote on this poll

01-09-2009, 12:24 PM	#1
TheRonTom31 Zilvia Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Saratoga, NY Age: 41 Posts: 775 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	Beer or Boobs??? I have been thinking of dating a waitress from my favorite bar. I ended up taking her around with me to a bunch of bars for her 21st birthday, it was fun. I got along with her pretty well, she was a ttracteive and fit my style. Possibly good girlfriend material rather than just random i need as tonight skeeze. But i am torn... its my favorite bar and i see bars as a place to go to escape the ball and chain and see/interact with other lady friends (no cheating). I fear if things go well my bar wont be the same. If i date this girl all my lady friends at the bar may report to her or i'd have to watch what i say and how i act when im there. It would also mean free rides home from the bar the nights she works which up here when its -8* out would be sweeter than walking 2 blocks. If things go sour it will be awkward to be in my favorite bar, my female friends at said favorite bar may dislike me out of loyalty to said girl. this is a great dilemna... I am leaning toward keeping my bar, but its slow at work today so I figured a poll would be fun picture for reference. Girl on the right is the one i am interested in

01-09-2009, 12:29 PM	#2
HyperTek Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Cali Posts: 13,224 Trader Rating: (3) Feedback Score: 3 reviews	well if she works there, then she should already know how you are if she sees you there often right? __________________ Keep it Classy

01-09-2009, 12:34 PM	#4
LeftNutOfGowd Post Whore! Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: O.C Age: 37 Posts: 2,515 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	Hummm this is a interesting dilemma I say just enjoi the bar __________________

01-09-2009, 12:44 PM	#7
SmogSUX Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Chico Age: 35 Posts: 588 Trader Rating: (15) Feedback Score: 15 reviews	Keep the bar! Finding a close bar that's good is hard. On top of that even though the chick has seen how you are, shes seen the SINGLE you how you are. If you were with her I doubt she'd be down to have you hanging out with chicks drinking as per usual. __________________ 96 S14 w/ Kouki Front 05 Yamaha YZF600

01-09-2009, 12:33 PM	#3
TheRonTom31 Zilvia Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Saratoga, NY Age: 41 Posts: 775 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	That is a very good point that i never thought about

01-09-2009, 12:39 PM	#5
TheRonTom31 Zilvia Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Saratoga, NY Age: 41 Posts: 775 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	I am not a fan of loud or crazy bars or clubs. This is a sports bar. The entire staff is girls, 80% of which i am friends with, all are very attractive. A good number i would say are even out of my league, and i pull some pretty high quality trim without even trying. I am good enough friends with the girls bartending there that i can go with my best friend and we can drink beer and do shots with the girls for a solid 12 hours and have a $18 bar tab. This is mainly cause we'll both drop $30 on the tab, but we easily drink over that in drinks each sitting there and have dinner. Theres not many bars two block down the street in town from my house. Thats why I'm weighing said situation

01-09-2009, 12:42 PM	#6
TommyBoy89 Leaky Injector Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Ont. Canada Posts: 149 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	This is very interesting actually. My advice is not needed sadly as I am not legal drinking age in the states. I don't know if I would do it though, it's like dating one of your best friends girlfriends best friends...that sounds so confusing but I hope you get what I'm going for...it may end up awkward no matter how it works out. I would suggest getting to know her better apart from work though if that is an option.

01-09-2009, 12:49 PM	#8
sub9lulu Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 369 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	just have some casual sex and see if u like it first

01-09-2009, 01:05 PM	#10
Brian Post Whore! Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: usa Posts: 12,840 Trader Rating: (54) Rides Gallery: Brian Feedback Score: 54 reviews	Are you sure she isn't jus ttrying to get bigger tips from you? Maybe she does this with many guys that go to her bar. __________________ http://bhworld.wordpress.com/

01-09-2009, 01:06 PM	#11
ALTRNTV Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Western Conference Posts: 9,429 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	BH is on to something. I voted for to enjoy the bar and the hoars.

01-09-2009, 01:09 PM	#12
Brian Post Whore! Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: usa Posts: 12,840 Trader Rating: (54) Rides Gallery: Brian Feedback Score: 54 reviews	Does she laugh at your jokes and lightly touch your leg or arm when you're there? __________________ http://bhworld.wordpress.com/

01-09-2009, 01:10 PM	#13
ESmorz Post Whore! Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: It Looks Like A Dong Posts: 6,902 Trader Rating: (2) Feedback Score: 2 reviews	__________________

01-09-2009, 01:15 PM	#15
JRas Zilvia FREAK! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Arizona Age: 35 Posts: 1,503 Trader Rating: (2) Feedback Score: 2 reviews	not all relationships end bad.. you can still be friends after, take the chance, least you will be able to say you tried. __________________

01-09-2009, 01:16 PM	#17
Brian Post Whore! Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: usa Posts: 12,840 Trader Rating: (54) Rides Gallery: Brian Feedback Score: 54 reviews	Oh alright. That sounds better. __________________ http://bhworld.wordpress.com/

01-09-2009, 01:17 PM	#18
ALTRNTV Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Western Conference Posts: 9,429 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	Well, with that said, go out with her and see where it takes you. Also tell her to get you free drinks. Win.

01-09-2009, 01:43 PM	#23
drftwerks Nissanaholic! Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: california Posts: 2,343 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	MY VOTE IS BOTH. __________________ giantroboteyes.wordpress.com/

01-09-2009, 01:48 PM	#25
DUFFM4N Post Whore! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Southern California...where i stretch out haters like a bad thong Age: 40 Posts: 7,371 Trader Rating: (40) Rides Gallery: DUFFM4N Feedback Score: 40 reviews	"dont mix business with pleasure" ...even if you just fucked around with her, wouldnt it still be awkward either way considering you'd have to still go back to the bar and see her? __________________ *things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who HUSTLE* CLICK HERE FOR MY BLOG

01-09-2009, 01:53 PM	#26
C. Senor Post Whore! Join Date: May 2006 Location: cali Posts: 3,488 Trader Rating: (3) Feedback Score: 3 reviews	haha....tecate is a mexican beer. you would know if you lived in cali. lol try the gf thing. i mean if you dig the girl enough, you should try it. just dont be the one that fucks up the relationship. and just try, if things were to go sour, to keep it freindly. hopefully that wont mess up things at the bar. because it is tough to find a bar like that. __________________ Don't forget to tell your mom, she ran out of eggs this morning!

01-09-2009, 01:53 PM	#27
BOROSUN Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: two legit to quit Age: 43 Posts: 5,236 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	DOOOOD!!! boobs

01-09-2009, 01:54 PM	#28
azndoc Post Whore! Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Los Angeles Age: 42 Posts: 9,487 Trader Rating: (47) Rides Gallery: azndoc Feedback Score: 47 reviews	I made that mistake before trying to date a girl from my favorite sushi place. It became too awkward when it didn't work out. So yeah, don't shit where you eat kind of rule.