theres alot of jibba jabba here. i didnt read hardly anything to be honest.
i did notice though that the op said he was wanting a bmw->honda bolt pattern
e30cabrio, heres something you might find neat if you dont want to drill your hubs, (drilling hubs is perfectly ok by the way)
http://www.tunershop.com/Wheels/
phatty 4 lugs 'r us